Though it’s been 25 years since Selena Quintanilla’s premature dying, the countless love between the Queen of Tejano music and her husband, Chris Pérez, continues to be alive and nicely.
“I’ve by no means had the form of love that I had with Selena,” Pérez, 51, advised The Put up of his late spouse, who was gunned down at 23 by the president of her fan membership, Yolanda Saldívar, in March 1995.
“[Selena’s] manner of being made me understand the ability in being susceptible,” the Grammy-award successful songwriter and guitar participant stated. “Like it doesn’t matter what, you’re going to take your coronary heart out, figuratively, and get on one knee and hand it to that different individual. And I’d by no means executed that.”
Selena and Pérez’s amor prohibido — her father initially disapproved of the connection — captivated international audiences within the 1997 blockbuster biopic “Selena,” starring Jennifer Lopez. Now, their timeless adoration is again within the highlight within the acclaimed launch this month of Netflix’s “Selena: The Series,” that includes actress Christian Serratos within the titular function.
Nonetheless, Pérez, who served for six years as lead guitarist of his spouse’s household band, Selena y Los Dinos, was neither consulted nor concerned within the making of the biographical drama, produced by Selena’s father and sister, Abraham and Suzette Quintanilla.
“You may line us all up, the fellows within the band and the members of her household, and ask us to inform the total story of all of the issues we skilled collectively, and it’d be the identical story however advised from a bunch of various views. And [‘Selena: The Series’] is their perspective,” Pérez stated, noting his exclusion from the Netflix venture is probably going because of former authorized contentions along with his estranged in-laws.
“We haven’t spoken for the reason that lawsuit,” Pérez stated, referring to litigation Abraham Quintanilla filed towards him in 2016. The go well with was a profitable try to dam a tv adaptation of a memoir Pérez penned in tribute to his slain sweetheart in 2012 entitled: “To Selena, With Love.”
“I’m a believer that in case you actually ever did love someone you don’t simply cease loving them,” Pérez continued. “So, there’s all the time going to be that love and respect [for her family]. However issues are not so good as they need to be and that hurts.”
Pérez married Venessa Villanueva, who he met via a mutual good friend, in 2001, six years after Selena’s dying. The couple welcomed two kids, Cassie, 22, and Noah, 15, earlier than divorcing in 2008.
Though totally engaged in his new life as a father, musician, and extra not too long ago, a hot-pepper-sauce entrepreneur, Pérez continues to really feel the pangs of Selena’s passing every single day.
“After I obtained remarried, that was me attempting to downplay [Selena’s death] in my life. It was too painful. I by no means talked about [Selena’s death],” he stated. “Getting remarried and beginning my new life was a method to recover from shedding her. I believed getting remarried would assist, and it did. However the ache continues to be there. It’ll all the time be there.”
Pérez fondly remembers being in an “superb place” of affection with Selena within the days main as much as her homicide. Saldívar shot her exterior of a Days Inn in Corpus Christi, Texas.
“We eloped on April 2, 1992, and she or he died March 31, 1995. So she died two days earlier than our third wedding ceremony anniversary,” Pérez stated. “So, yearly round that point, I attempt to not let my coronary heart and thoughts take into consideration her an excessive amount of as a result of the sentiments are simply too intense. It’s nonetheless a continuing wrestle.”
Regardless of the agony of his loss, Pérez stated he doesn’t really feel any lingering animosity in direction of Saldívar — who’s at the moment serving her life sentence on the Mountain View Unit, a most safety ladies’s jail in Gatesville, Texas. She will likely be eligible for parole in 2025.
Endlessly celebrating her life and legacy, Pérez was scheduled to carry out on the SXSW Selena for Sanctuary charity live performance in Texas earlier this yr; nonetheless, the showcase was cancelled as a result of pandemic.
However he nonetheless sees his late love in his goals.
“It occurs every day. She involves me … both after I’m sleeping or in a daydream,” stated Pérez, who’s open to the potential of at some point writing one other ebook about life with, and after, Selena. He stated she encourages him to “preserve your head up.”
“I hear her speaking to me on a regular basis,” he added. “And although she was taken from us at such a younger age so a few years in the past, after I hear her spirit chatting with me, I hear who I imagine she could be now, at present, as if she’s been right here with me, sharing my life experiences all this time.”